Your emotional needs are real.
They are valid.
They are important.
I think it is imperative to acknowledge that so many of us, were brought up to believe that our emotions didn't matter. We learned to swallow and dismiss them.
We grew up experiencing emotional neglect from caregivers who had so much of their own healing to do, unresolved pain and traumas. Of course they couldn't be present and hold space for children.
So here we are, adults with core wounds, trying desperately to understand why we are they way we are.
Let's start with our Inner Child.
I do Inner Child work with every single client, regardless of whether they are seeing me in order to be able to orgasm, or discover their life purpose. Our Inner Child is key to living our best, most empowered life.
When we are doing Inner Child work, we first discover what needs we had as children that were not met by our caregivers. We then, pledge to fulfill those needs.
Sometimes, we are unknowingly operating from the consciousness of our Inner Child. When we begin working with them, we can discover that a 10 year old version of you is trying to manage your career, your relationships, maybe even your sex life. This is often the case, if we tend to be very reactive, explosive or accusatory in our lives. Notice your language when you are in a verbal exchange with your partner or a loved one. Do you use phrases like "You always..." or "You never..." ? If you notice this, it is an indication that your Inner Child is in charge in this situation. How do you react when your own children aren't listening? Do you get angry and frustrated? What if I told you this could be an Inner Child wound being poked - from not being seen or heard as a child.
Working with the Inner Child is incredibly powerful. It is the way in which we trace back to the origins of our wounds, and heal them at the source. It changes the way we move through our relationships, the way we parent, the way we show up at work. In their book, "Getting the Love You Want" Harville Hendrix, Ph.D. and Helen LaKelly Hunt, Ph.D. state " Children instinctively observe the choices their parents make, the freedoms and pleasures they allow themselves, the talents they develop, the abilities they ignore, and the rules they follow. All of this has a profound effect on children: 'This is how we live, this is how we get through life.' Whether children accept their parents model, or rebel against it, this early socialization plays a significant role in mate selection"
Our Inner Child impacts every part of our life, whether we know it or not. Healing the Inner Child is a life long journey, but one that will get more comfortable with time, love and intention.
If you are curious about this, or have any questions, just comment or email me! I'd love to talk more with you about Inner Child Work.
With Love and Magick,